Owning Your Truth in Crazy Times

What is “Your Truth”?

Is it a set of values and beliefs?

Is it defined by what attracts and/or repels you?

Are you living in total alignment with it, whatever “It” is?

From the moment we are born, other people begin imprinting and influencing us with their beliefs, values, and ideals. They tell us what’s right, what’s wrong and what the appropriate responses are to each.

If we stick to what they say, we get their approval and if we veer off, we get their shame.

Rather than impartially present information to help others make informed choices about what feels right for them to act upon, we create agendas for how we think they “should” behave instead.

This is a deeply ingrained norm in our society and it’s so normal that we do it without it even realizing what we’re doing.

But it’s incredibly unhealthy and damaging to ourselves and others because it creates unnecessary pressure and restrictive conditions which make others feel trapped, imprisoned, and unable to feel a sense of validation or approval.

People make bad choices when they feel this way.

The saying goes, “Hurting people hurt people.”

If you continually find yourself in a state of anxiety, overwhelm, panic, fear, or frustration, there’s a good chance you’re not in alignment with your Truth. If that’s case, then I want to (lovingly) say that it’s time to check yourself.

Say what you need to say and do what you need to do to live your Truth. I promise it will silence so much noise in your life and bring a deeper sense of relief and peace.

The Lion’s Gate

We are living in some pretty intense times right now:

Astrologically speaking, there are 5 planets currently in retrograde. We had a lunar eclipse during the full moon this month and we’re having a total solar eclipse during the New Moon on August 21.

A numerological event known as “The Lion’s Gate” is also occurring between the Full & New Moon. On August 8th, 2017 the numerology created a triple 888 (8+8+2+0+1+7=26/8, for my numerology nerds). It happened again on August 17th (8+1+7+2+0+1+7=26/8).

Each event is significant but what this all together means (for those who don’t identify as astrology/numerology nerds) is that we are in an incredibly powerful period of having anything which creates a block or sense of being “stuck” rise to the surface.

Any area of your life which doesn’t feel in total alignment with your authentic feelings, desires, and beliefs will bother and disturb you much more intensively.

There is no hiding from your Truth; it always finds you in the end. During the Lion’s Gate period, this is even more evident.

You can see this playing out all over the world; in America, we recently had to face the possibility of going to war with North Korea. Then, in Charlottesville, Virginia several anti-racism protesters were killed or hospitalized when a white supremacist pummeled his car into their assembly.   

There is no place for Darkness to hide when Light is shone upon it.

All of our darkness is being brought into the light for clearing and releasing right now, on cultural as well as individual levels.

There’s no more room for self-imposed ignorance; it’s time to make choice about what you stand for and against.

Whether it’s something as large as systemic racism or something as personal as deciding to get out of a relationship where you don’t feel respected or valued, it is time to choose.

“If you stand for nothing, you’ll fall for anything.”

It’s time to take a stand for ourselves. It’s time to advocate for our divine birthrights of wellness, abundance, and personal empowerment.

Say NO to what you know is wrong. Say YES to what you know is right.

We don’t have the luxury of turning a blind eye anymore, my friends. If we want our lives and the world to be better it’s time to “pull a Ghandi” and “BE the change you want to see in the world.

Take the bubble bath, already!

I’m on my knees, crumpled over the toilet, crying like a baby.

I feel stupid and like a total waste of space.

Every muscle in my body is screaming at me.

I’m utterly defeated and just. so. done.

You know what broke me? Paint.

Yes, I know how silly that sounds but if you’d told me at the time how silly I was being I would have probably unleashed every frustration in my life on you. That’s how DONE I was.

Tahitian Breeze skidded into Pure White and created a head-on collision of color when I exhaled too soon and my hand shook (just a millimeter), at the very end of my paint job.

All day long I’d been painting my guest bathroom and here I was at the bitter end, trying to cut a straight line of gorgeous “Tahitian Breeze” against the pure white of the adjacent wall.

And please don’t even think of calling it something as banal as “turquoise”.

It was Tahitian Breeze, dammit and it would’ve been glorious… if I hadn’t biffed it.

But I did and now, my new mermaid-themed bathroom was ruined. It was never going to come together, now that a sliver of the wall behind the toilet was all jacked-up.

Clearly, my life was over and I was a worthless piece of something which belonged in the same toilet I was currently hunched over.

That’s what I get for thinking I could DIY. Ugh!

Have you ever been there?

After pouring all of your energy into whatever the demands of the day have been, some random, insignificant thing goes sideways and BLAM-O! You lose 100% of your sh*t and have a completely ridiculous meltdown?

It could be a wonky paint line. Or a screaming kid. Or a comforting pat on the shoulder from your partner, which you misinterpret as “patronizing” in your withered mental/emotional state.

Whatever it is, you hit a wall and completely overreact to what would otherwise be considered a “minor stressor”.

You snap. And there’s collateral damage left in the wake.

What do you do?

I’ll tell you what I did:

I crumpled over my toilet and started crying like a baby.

My husband came in asking, “What’s wrong, honey?”

“I CAN’T DO THIS! I’m not a f***ing painter!! What was I thinking?!” (insert “drama queen” emoji here).

(My husband is also tired but thankfully hasn’t been crammed in a small box huffing paint fumes all day like I have.)

“Hey, it’s OK. You’ve done great! It really doesn’t look that bad. We’ll fix it tomorrow. You’re just done for the day, that’s all.”

Bless him.

I realized in that instant I’d reached the end of my rope and I was “just done for the day”; I wasn’t a failure or less of a person. I’d simply hit my limit and Life was telling me the day was over, even though my head hadn’t received the memo.

Here’s what you can do if you hit a wall like I did:

  1. Recognize you’ve hit your limit and say out loud, “I’m done.”
  2. Give yourself permission to be DONE.
  3. Withdraw as quickly and graciously as possible.
  4. If you bite someone’s head off or otherwise cause damage during your exit, forgive yourself, then own it and apologize once your sanity has been reclaimed.
  5. Set a goal to start implementing an earlier exit strategy next time you’re feeling stretched too thin.

It’s time for us to recognize that Chronic Overachieving is a disease that eats away at our peace of mind and that it creates more problems than it solves.

Our culture places such an emphasis on being “bigger, better, faster, more!” like it’s a badge of honor when really it’s barbiturate dependence, waiting to happen.

Chronic Overachieving leads to Chronic Burnout.

Sure, it’s great to stretch beyond our comfort zones and challenge our capabilities; that’s where a lot of growth and strengthening happens.

But we can also honor our limits, even as we test them.

A little bit of paint reminded me of this and at the end of the day, I walked away, had a delicious soak in the bathtub and proceeded to sleep like a rock.

The next day, my friend came over and helped me correct the mistakes, which weren’t all that extreme once I looked at them, minus the paint fume-induced dementia.

My mermaid powder room came together and I’ve been loving it ever since. Who knew how much someone could actually look forward to using the loo?

Things are rarely as extreme as we blow them up to be in our minds; the ability to take a step back until you gain a little perspective is a worthy one to cultivate.

If you find yourself blowing things out of proportion, either frequently or occasionally, consider this your permission slip to “just be done” and take a friggin’ bubble bath when you need one.

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June 2017

Release And Let Go So Things Can Flow

Hey Love! It’s me, Jaena Moynihan, your Divine Mission Coach and “friend with spiritual benefits”, here to deliver a little monthly inspiration.

I’m  inspired by a lot of things but there’s one thing I’m consistently and continuously inspired by nearly every single day: tarot cards. I LOVE tarot cards and think they’re the most fabulous spiritual tool in my toolkit.

I’ve been reading them for myself since 1989 and professionally for others since 2004 and I never stop learning from them. Honestly, Tarot has always been my gateway drug to spirituality!

Here are a few cards I pulled for you to help look at what the energy is like around us right now, which I explain in my June Tarot Vlog:

5 of Pentacles

The first card that came up is the 5 of Pentacles and in tarot, fives are numbers of change, transition, movement, and challenge, which bring a tremendous amount of growth (tough as it may be at times).

The 5 of Pentacles tends to come up when we’re going through a period of having to make necessary changes.

It can feel like “change” is getting forced on us when this card shows up; we’re going from where we are to where we need to be, not necessarily because we want to rather have to because our circumstances necessitate a transition, so this is all about really accepting (even embracing) those changes.

It’s in the suit of Pentacles, which is connected with the element of Earth, so this is what’s impacting us on a physical, material level such as money, health, career, and home; it all comes under the Pentacles jurisdiction.

Remember, this too shall pass; it’s just a temporary set of circumstances. You may not be entirely satisfied with where you’re at but at least you’re in transit to a different, hopefully, better place.


10 of Wands

The next card that came up was also a bit heavy: the 10 of Wands, which is the card that always likes to appear when we’re feeling over-burdened.

You can see the person depicted in this card is carrying quite a heavy load but they’re almost home so the messages are, “finish strong” and “don’t give up right before your miracle happens”.

A few questions this card likes to ask include:

  • What do you need to do right now, at this moment in order to lighten your load?
  • What do you need to do to unburden yourself or experience relief?
  • Are you carrying the weight of other people’s drama on your back?
  • Is everything you’re carrying all your own stuff, or is there any of it you can let the owners handle for themselves like grown-ups do?

There are times when it’s necessary to receive support but there are also times when we need to stand up and handle our own stuff. If this makes you think of anyone in particular, know that it’s a great time to set a boundary (or ten).

Speaking of tens, whenever one shows up in tarot, it’s double the 5 energy we discussed with the 5 of Pentacles, so of course there’s going to be a lot of change, transition and movement going on but tens also refer to simultaneous endings and beginnings; one chapter is about to close for you while another is opening.

It’s a new phase of your life; moving forward, there won’t be as much room for some of the stuff that once occupied your time and energy; this is a great time to take a personal inventory and assess what that feels outdated and in need of being released.


3 of Swords

The final card showing up is the 3 of swords and it looks like a pretty gnarly card, right? I mean, it’s 3 swords piercing a heart, so it’s not hard to guess that this card speaks to sadness, sorrow, grief, heartache, and disappointment; this card often shows up when we’re experiencing a significant degree of mental and emotional pain.

Swords connect with the element of Air, so it’s all about what impacts us on a mental level, such as stress and anxiety or on the flip side, it could represent clarity and ah-ha moments.

The thing about this card is that even though it looks super-gnarly, it’s actually a really good card with a great message: you don’t get rainbows without rainstorms.

Rainbows are often seen after thunderstorms, which are very cleansing events. Perhaps what you’re experiencing as “painful” may actually be clearing the way for a breakthrough in the near future.

The best way to encourage this breakthrough is to allow yourself to have whatever emotional release you need; don’t try to push it down because doing so will only cause you more pain.

Let it go, let it flow and know a rainbow will appear on the other side of your pain very soon.

There are two suits in tarot: the Major and Minor Arcana. Each of the cards I pulled is in the minor arcana, which represent temporary, passing circumstances, whereas the major cards speak to universal themes and lasting lessons in life. If it’s been more challenging for you lately, know that it’s simply a transitional period for you and things should lighten up again very soon.

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