No Apologies, Allison DuBois' Newsletter
Hello and thanks for dropping in for my April newsletter,
The purpose of my newsletter is to touch on various topics intended to help you to get the most out of your life. Since April is a month of rebirth and new beginnings I thought it fitting to write about the tools that have helped me through trying times, a spiritual pep talk if you will. I have talked to many people who were at a crossroad or in a depressed mode. Often this occurs due to the death of a loved one, but is not limited to it. I see a lot of the best and the worst surface in people after a loved one dies.
I myself dealt with family members fighting over my dad's money and scavenging through his things. Trust me I understand. I think it's important to bring this common occurrence into the light to try and help the grief stricken through it.
First of all parents need to have a will so that their children and family members don't have room for debate over what mom/dad wanted them to have, put it in writing! Money is energy because it can be exchanged for something that we desire or a service to make our lives easier so when someone passes away and leaves money/valuables family members feel they need it partially because in a way it represents a living part of the person who passed either because they worked for it or the object carries their living energy. So when children or family members do the wrong thing by taking things that don't belong to them sometimes it's out of desperation to be loved by the deceased. When my dad died I used what he left me (thankfully in our joint bank account) to do the things that he had wanted to do in life but out of fear of not having a nest egg he didn't do the things that he really would have liked to.
My dad loved back massages because he played basketball and he'd pull muscles trying to be twenty years younger so I went to Sharper Image and I purchased a massage chair that Joe and I use when stressed. Energetically I plugged my inheritance into places that remind me of him in some way or I invested in his granddaughter's college funds that way they have something from their grandpa that will allow them to understand what they meant to him and my dad felt strongly about a good education because he didn't make it to college due to having to work from a very young age. So if you find yourself being left to pick up the pieces in life find a way to make it right for you, you can take a bad situation and look at it in a new light. My dad's family conveniently lost the painting that my father had painted of me when I was little so I had a painting made of each of my daughters for them and the paintings of my girls came in on my dad's birthday, not a coincidence.
I took a painful situation and I "made it right" for me, I look at my daughters' paintings and I fondly remember my own and it feels good. Everybody feels pain at sometime in their life but if you learn how to convert the pain into something positive you'll live a much more valuable life one to be admired and emulated.
Allison DuBois
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