I love Fall. It's a time where we can start to get excited about the up and coming flurry of holidays. For those who have lost someone this can be the hardest time of year especially those who have lost a child. At this time of year I think we like to reflect on our own childhood watching little kids around us get excited about a new school year.
For most, childhood was a time that we weren't aware of the pain that comes from losing someone we love. We had such freedom inside. A freedom that we seem to lose after we learn to fear the pain that we acquire saying good-bye to someone that we weren't prepared to let go of. Childhood was a time where everything could be made better by our parents. Moms kissed us to make it better and dads could fix anything or tell you a story about their own childhood hurdles that would make yours seem not so bad.
So for those of you who miss watching the leaves turn colors this time of year with someone you loved or your mom waving good-bye to you as you left in the morning for school, those people who have since died know you will have those moments again. I titled my second book “We Are Their Heaven” because I explain how often the living are a version of heaven to the dead. As the deceased are revisiting their emotional memories of us, that is their idea of heaven. We are doing the same every time we walk down memory lane remembering them.
So the next time you feel sad thinking of the times in the past that you miss, know that the person who has died is with you at that moment enjoying the same memory that you're reaching back clinging to. Sense that they're there and acknowledge them.
People often worry about what people will think of them for believing our deceased loved ones visit us, the deceased don't have this hang up. It's time to open up your heart to the otherside and make those who've passed count more than your own insecurities. Once you can achieve opening your heart up fully like in childhood you become capable of connecting with the deceased on a stronger and higher level. Live, they want you to make the most of your life. That's what you want for people that you love.
Live Creatively,
Allison DuBois
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